#voicethisout:

I’m married for 4 years and I am a homemaker. I am still trying for a baby after 2 miscarriages. I also attended your pre-pregnancy class earlier. I was living abroad. Before two months I came to India due to my health issues.

For the past 1 month, I am staying with my parents. My hubby had paid a certain amount for my treatment. He says, “I only paid the amount and your parents didn’t spend any money for your treatment”. When I had my previous miscarriage, my parents also gave some money but now they didn’t due to their financial problems.

Is there any rule that only the wife’s parents should spend the money for her pregnancy treatment? Am I not his responsibility? I’m not interested in talking to him because respect is based only on the money here. The words “I only spent money on your treatment” hurt me a lot and I’m under so much stress.

It’s been just 4 years and many more years to go. The words he told before marriage were different and after marriage, everything changed. I love him a lot. But I started maintaining some distance from him after a few instances. His words are running in my mind all the time. I don’t know how to talk with him. And I am scared to talk to him freely when I came to know money plays a major role in relationships and everything else is secondary.

If my parents give money, he will give respect to me. What kind of mindset is this? His family is also middle-class like us and he started everything from zero. Now he is earning well and taking care of his mother and sister well. But when it comes to me problems arise due to money. I’m just useless to him.

To all hubby please take care of your wife. She is your responsibility. She is taking care of everyone in your family and adjusting to them only for you. Please respect your wife too…