#voicethisout

Earlier when girl babies were born they used to blame the women before science revealed the truth of gender determination. Now also, women are blamed in so many ways. When the babies born are unhealthy or premature, the mothers get blamed by in-laws that we are careless or not healthy. My baby was born premature. Before that doctor has advised me to be on bed rest and despite that I had premature delivery. My friend was advised by doctor to be active during her pregnancy, though her family advised her to slow down. She also had premature delivery and her family blames her that it was because she was active. We, pregnant women acted under the advise of qualified doctors and somehow still ended up in premature delivery. Still, our family puts blame on us that it is because of something we did or didn’t do.

How easy it is to blame a woman who takes so much pain physically, emotionally and even career wise to have a baby and before the trauma of premature delivery and NICU ends, the in-laws start blaming us.

Even our husbands don’t support us.

Worse still, since we spend the last few months of pregnancy with our parents, the blame also falls on them that they didn’t take care of us properly.

Even if someone doesn’t have post partum depression, such incidents may lead to it.

Please voice this out.
Thank you