#voicethisout

Hi Anuakka, I am your student of all amazing sessions. I delivered a baby boy on Dec 11th and it was a C-section. I want to share my experience with you. 

I had the best mother-in-law till she knew I’m pregnant. Like, initially she said she wants a baby boy, etc. I was in Hyderabad and she wanted me to be back to Mangalore (hometown) just coz I was pregnant, then she was against my pets, and small little things added up till my baby shower…

I had my personal reasons for not wanting to have a grand baby shower, but because of my mother-in-law’s tantrums, we did it. I never wanted to have a baby naming ceremony because I didn’t want my baby to be exposed on the 16th day to the outside world because of health factors. But without considering his health my mother-in-law wanted a grand ceremony which I never agreed to. So, she even started to spread the word on my mom’s side that we are having a naming ceremony and she tried to insult us that we didn’t invite anyone.

She comes home once in a while and she keeps ranting about what I should do, what I shouldn’t do, what she did with her 2 children, what she followed, staying inside the room and house for 40 days, doesn’t let me do anything I want, literally heard everything that you voice out in your insta page!!!!!

Honestly akka, after attending your sessions I built a lot of positivity around me and tried to be strong knowing I have to face a lot of new stuff. I loved to be with my husband and spend quality time with him. We have gone out crazily before baby, sneaked out for parties, and gone for instant long drives. I drove for my last check-up 3 days before my delivery too.

I would like to say that sitting inside the house is totally okay if we have a good companion, good people who make us smile and laugh, crack jokes, and make things special. Even I would stay inside the room for my whole maternity break.

But definitely would want to voice out the negativity inside the room that girls like me go through in this postpartum journey… You were pregnant too, you delivered kids too, you went through those sleepless nights and endless tortures from others, but you didn’t stop there being a girl (I really wish I had the courage to say this on her face). No matter how much positive I try to be, I end up being sad. Even while penning down this, I’m in tears😢