#voicethisout 

Hi Anu mam, Hi Anu Akka, I am a 32 yrs old woman working in a well-known Central Govt Organization. In the 1st year of marriage, my MIL insisted me to go to my mother’s home during Ashada masam. But I and my husband decided that this Superstition should not be followed after looking into different aspects of our life. We conveyed the same to my MIL. She told my daughter followed it, this is our family tradition, and so on.
Though she didn’t agree at first, later she said ok. I was at my mother’s place just before ashada. At that point of time my MIL calls me, my mother asks me to continue to stay at my mother’s place for the whole coming month of Ashada, since ashada is starting in a few days.
My husband had initially understood and agreed with me. I don’t know what made him change later in my absence, he also telephonically conveyed to me to stay back at my mother’s place.
My husband who was 36yrs old and working in a reputed software company teaches in colleges, is very knowledgeable, has learned Vedas, and has a good name in Society outside. But at home, my MIL is deciding what my husband and I have to do and what not to do. This is just one of those situations, that I am facing.
I don’t understand how a grown-up knowledgeable man of 36 yrs can’t take rightful decisions for himself, his wife, his relationship, and his family. I felt devastated to receive such behavior for my husband and his family. The husband should be supportive of his wife, understand the situation and take rightful action.
Being a couple, me and my husband should plan what we need to do, about our future, about our life. This type of interference affects both of us and our families as well. I firmly told my husband that “I might be following this awkward superstition, but I will make sure that my daughter or my DIL in the future will not be following this, it should end with me”. It is wrong to force a newly wedded couple to follow such things.
I strongly #VOICE THIS OUT.