#voicethisout 

Hi Anu Akka. Firstly, you inspires many people and I am one among them. Thank you so much for the knowledge you shares.
After seeing your #voicethisout posts I would like to sharing a scenario I have recently seen.
Recently one of my cousin(girl) got married. After her engagement there was more than 3 months of gap for marriage and 2 months before marriage her mom accidentally fell down from steps and had to undergo a surgery and should be completely on bed rest for atleast 3 months. After that incident my uncle requested the groom’s family to postpone marriage. But they rejected saying No we cannot postpone as we have booked function hall and did all the early bookings which are needed. Even my uncle requested them many times they didn’t agree for that and my aunt was completely on bed at times of all marriage work and my cousin was so sad as her mom could not involve in things. somehow managed to take her to function hall so that she can see the marriage.

After all this, few questions are continually going on in my mind. Will it be the same if the something happens to someone from groom’s family and they request for postpone and will the things be same even after refusing their request ? Will the groom family be okay if they face the same refusal ? And one more thing bothers me is.. Is it really worth to marry a person who won’t understand that situation and couldn’t take a step to support the girl and her family ?

When I discussed the same with my mom she told what can we do when they are not ready to understand the situation. And when i asked is it worth marrying him and going to that family my mom scolded me saying why don’t you understand things and we are from the girl’s side. And she added that she is worried about my way of thinking and expectations..
I am literally confused with the same question is it really worth marrying a person who can’t take a stand for valid reasons?