#voicethisout 

Greetings Anu Akka, Hai all Wanted to share this for a very long time. I got married in Feb 2021 and I got conceived in November with my rainbow baby. yes, I had a miscarriage in June month.

From the time I got pregnant, my father-in-law will always address the baby only as grandson – “Peran”. I told him many times to call him just a baby as nobody knows his gender. I also mentioned that I wish for a girl child and he keeps on insisting that the baby should be a boy.

1. He says that boy babies are the “varisu of the family, vamsam of the family”.

2. He says that a girl child will be born only if our ancestors commit sin.

3. He says that if I give birth to a girl child I will be in trouble after 25 years.
My MIL used to tell me that I shouldn’t argue with FIL and just obey his words. My baby is my first priority so I kept talking back.

Above all my husband said that his father is just expressing his wish for a boy baby and I am the one who is exaggerating. He knows that his father is wrong but still he cannot talk against it. He tries to control me by telling me that I’m taking it in the wrong sense. Slowly I came to a situation that if he doesn’t stand for me and my baby, why should I need him?

Nowadays I Am maintaining distance from my husband and his family members