#mylifelessonsbyanu

Got this below message a long time back

“Hi akka, I just want to share with you something which most of the girl’s face. Usually, a lot of moms undergo a lot of pressure during their second delivery when the first baby is a girl child, just because society wants a boy. During the entire pregnancy not only mom has this pressure but they inject a few things into the little girl like, soon you will have a small brother, (not even once did they want to say you might have a little baby girl), they keep on injecting it will be boy baby. In this case, if the second baby is also a girl, the first child is getting upset very badly. Recently my neighbor had this issue and the first child screamed “Enaku intha papa venam, thambi papa tan venum” (I don’t want a sister, I want only a brother). Mothers are more worried about the sibling relationship. Already she will be under a hell lot of pressure, when the first baby not accepting second, think of her situation, how will she digest this?”

The above message is the situation in many households. I too personally feel this is a huge stress for second-time mothers, believe me even I was not spared by society. There was a lot of pressure to give birth to a girl because my first one was a boy.

The pressure to have a girl child was too much for me at times. Thank God, my husband and Ahan helped me stay neutral. But still, around days nearing my birth, I felt very nervous. After the birth of Ayan, we would see displeasure on many faces around us. The famous “second also a boy?”

It did not stop with that, recently one guest came home and she told this exact line “Only if you did good karma in your last birth, you would have had a girl child this time” I was like “Seriously, please grow up”.
Why is there so much pressure when it comes to the gender of the second baby from the society that “the second baby should be of the opposite gender of the first baby?”