#voicethisout

This is Y from Madurai. I’m your pre-pregnancy student.

I got married on Sep 2, 2019, Conceived in Jan 2020 and got aborted on Feb 2020 as per doctor’s advice. I came to know that I had PCOD. It’s very painful physically and mentally. I was emotionally broken, felt stressed and depressed. I was afraid of PCOD and what it had done to me. At that time, I attended your pre-pregnancy session. It changed my world and perspective. I was positive and started trusting my body.

The second time I conceived last month and unfortunately had miscarriage this week. But this time I never broke down. I’m strong and confident because I trust my body and mind. But the people around me behave badly. They found stupid reasons for my miscarriage and say

* You are fast, that’s why you had miscarriage
* You had a cold. You sneezed and coughed heavily. That’s the reason.
* You climbed stairs.
* You didn’t eat healthy food.
* You traveled to your Mom’s place by car. That’s why you had miscarriage.
* Your doctor scanned and hurt your uterus. (They blame doctors too)
* You informed too many people about your pregnancy.

Lastly my sister-in-law asked me, “I think you had sex with my brother after getting pregnant. That’s why you had miscarriage. Tell me the truth”.
Sex and pregnacy is private issue between my husband and me. Who gave her the right to interfere in our private issue? I shouted at her. From that day, my mother-in-law is upset with me.

My husband is very supportive and loves me a lot.

Dear family and society,
I accept that all family members feel the pain of miscarriage. But the pain is MORE for the couple, especially the woman. Kindly realise it. Don’t hurt them. If you are not able to support them, just leave them alone. Don’t throw negativity on them.

After facing all these stupid people, I am strong and positive because of you only akka. Thanks a lot for that. I want to voice this out to shout “Don’t blame women for miscarriage”.

I hope that I will share my pregnancy news in the next mail and meet you with my baby.

Thank you

With love
Y