#VoiceThisOut

Hi Anu akka,

You impress me in bringing up so many subtle issues and creating awareness! I have followed you for the past 2 years and I only got to know about you after my delivery and you have been a wave of awe for me every time your post pops up in my insta feed. I have really wanted to voice this out to you for a while.

Live and let live! while you live, try to appreciate things, rather than picking things and trying to make life hell for others.

My MIL sure has a way of instilling thoughts that she is on top of the world and knows everything as to how I should feel on my period too. She goes to the extent of telling that you are good for nothing as you can’t manage your house during those times when I hardly ask anyone for any help.
Everyone has a different body and a baby belongs to their parents and not some random deciding authority. She constantly has a narcissistic way of telling things, as to I looked for an adjusting girl, some girl who earns or someone who can give birth at least right when I married! These are absurd thoughts that she puts to action too.
Now with a child delivered normally who is 2 odd years after a major life dreading surgery and a miscarriage, even living is a miracle to me. She took every chance to bully me for being a patient every single time she wants, she is now creating negativity for my child as to he is not up to the mark, seems useless, or questioning “is it because of your family genes” (for a fact if i compare my family peoe have better thought process and are better educated and more practical than they could ever try to be) and all other non-sense as to you are not a proper mom as you are not enough.

On top of this she constantly tries to add on by feeding thoughts of good-for-nothing wife as I grew up in a better environment, which she explicitly says because of her inferiority complex, to my husband that he also gets to shout at me at times without acknowledgement of what i do.
She is openly telling you are useless for the family as the efforts ain’t enough! I don’t want this to be a complaint but people shall also be aware of your facade sooner or later! All this while she has a daughter too! Life is a circle like thalaivar Rajinikanth’s song 8 kula ulagam iruku ramaiah, but have you attained the knowledge required to be in your age’s 8 ya?
Respect if you want to get it back!” Is this what your elders really taught you”, is often a question, while we can back fire the same to them too! There is a limit to every single deed we do. “Be mindful” is something I would like to remind.

And ladies, my dear queen mothers who get through similar situations, we are always better moms than they ever could be! Chin up and aim high ladies and make sure to label them as your under below average clan mark 😀 our sun still shines bright and does not go around and hide because a dog on earth is barking! Be the sun ladies, fly high! ♡ lots of love!