#voicethisout 

Hello Akka, This incident has affected me a lot as a daughter and as a girl mom. During my daughter’s naming ceremony in the temple, for the main ritual of receiving the pooja plate, the priest in the temple made my husband, me, and my baby stand together to touch the plate.

He also calls only my husband’s parents for this ritual. This took me a second to digest, why is it only the husband’s parents? Why not mine? In what way are they any lesser than my in-laws?

My parents took care of me (after the c-section) with my baby who was underweight and got us both back to health, had sleepless nights, and after five months of nursing both me and my daughter to good health the first function that we have for my daughter.

My parents are not even recognized. I have one of the best in-laws no doubt but when it came to my kid, they became the Worst in-laws.

Over a call between my dad and my father-in-law, my dad mentions that he is playing with the baby, and my father-in-law immediately says “enjoy with OUR grandchild’’. My father being the girl’s dad accepts what society is doing for him and says, yes, I am enjoying with YOUR grandchild.

Why the grandchild belongs only to the father’s side? My husband is their only son and I have a sister, does that mean my parents aren’t going to have anyone to call their own grandchildren and my kids are socially going to “belong” to my husband’s side of the family?