#momlife

Honestly, life with a 1.5-year-old at 38(turning 39 in less than ten days) is not as bad as people told me it would be.

I planned my second baby at 36 years old because, honestly, that was when I was both physically and emotionally ready. This is the answer I give anyone who asks me, “when should I plan another one?”. I feel this equation is very important. I was not ready to have a baby when society or family pressured me, scaring me with myths about why you should not have a late baby and believe me, today, I feel so grateful to the universe that I did not heed to it.
Yes, we had this baby when my elder one was eleven years old and truthfully, I have not come across any disadvantage because of it in the last 1.5 years.

Also, there is one set of people scaring you about the health hazards of pregnancy after 30! However, from my experience, let me tell you all that I was more fit during this pregnancy and birth at 37 than I was with the first one at 26.

So, it depends on the individual, their fitness and health conditions too.
Also, these stories of how you, as an old maiden, cannot get up in the night and care for the baby, and cannot do baby chores again is a big myth because I feel more empowered handling Ayan than Ahan 11 years back. It’s all about how empowered you are to face this journey with your heart and soul.

Honestly, Ayan is such a blessing to us at this age; he keeps us young by heart and soul! So, ladies, don’t plan a baby due to pressure; plan it when you are really ready!

There are a few mothers who without choice have a baby 30+ or 35+ after years of struggling to conceive. Let me assure you that at this age your baby is a blessing and is sure going to keep you young so don’t let people belittle your capacity as a mother because of your age. You are awesome.

Also remember a generation of our grandmothers who were multitasking and managing motherhood beautifully with a dozen children at 30+ and 35+.