#voicethisout

I thought you could address this issue on your platform, so sharing this conversation with you.

My mom in law came to the US to visit her nine-month-old granddaughter; the moment I delivered the baby girl (this is the second one, the first one was a girl too), I was suggested by my sister-in-law and MIL not to go for birth control option, I would not wonder to hear that from my MIL because she is uneducated however my sister-in-law is a government teacher. She suggests I opt for a third baby and do a scan and then decide (which means to abort if it’s a girl).
Back to the present, not knowing how to start, my MIL slowly brought back the conversation the very next day she came here; she says my co-sisters family members are so proud that only they have a son to carry forward family, and hence she suggests we have another baby and control their proud. Then I asked why a boy and gave her ample… ample… great examples stating both girls and boys are equal and current generation girls are one step more when compared to male because they can bore children and maintain a family while pursuing their careers. One hour of conversation of examples went on, but she is still not convinced and sticks to her feeling that men are more than women.
She kept quiet because she knew that we wouldn’t entertain/listen to her. However, I feel so sad that after trying to convince her so much, she still does not agree both men and women are equal. And also gave someone else an example of someone who divorced his wife because his wife did not conceive a boy and then suggested I go for a scan and abort if it’s a girl child next; I felt so sad.

However, I understand that she is uneducated and tried to discourage her thoughts…but that mentality of men and higher than women is very, very, very deep-rooted in our communities; I think she still does not agree, just that no one supports her, she kept quiet. After my conversation, I asked the eldest family members opinion (all are women, primarily grandmothers), all of them say/agree that men are more EVEN THOUGH THEY SUFFERED AND STILL SUFFERING from their HUSBAND/SON, despite having multiple sons to carry forward their family names.